Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in.

"Your assumptions are your windows on the world. 

Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in."

Isaac Asimov

Internal dialogue or your intra-personal relationship is everything that you think and say to yourself.  It seems to most of us that this is something that we have little control over.  You’re standing there minding your own business and bang, a thought that wasn’t there before enters your brain and manifests a conscious thought. So how do you control that? My school of thinking is that what comes out of your mind is what you put in it (just like your body). In other words, if you fill your mind with shit then that’s what you gonna get – shitty thoughts. What you take in through your senses, largely sight and sound, are what your brain will use as fuel to generate your thoughts. If you think about your mind this way you start to become really careful with what you allow through your senses. I made a commitment when I was eighteen years old not to watch television, read newspapers, hang out with negative people and listen to the radio. This choice gave me the best possible chance to get my brain thinking the right way. Do I think you should go to that extreme? Of course not. That’s the method that works for me. So do I internally slip up? Yes. Am I, sometimes internally negative? Yes. Are my thoughts always congruent with my desires? No. But I tell you what, I am a hell of a lot better than I used to be. I see my ability to generate the right kind of thinking just the same way I see my martial arts development: train, stuff it up a bunch of times, train harder, make a small break through, train some more, make another small break through and so on. Internal development is exactly the same as external development in that it’s always a work in progress and requires a “never give up” attitude.

Cynics often doubt the power of positive thinking. Certainly it is possible to site examples of people whose thoughts and habits are demonstratively negative. It is possible to make a tonne of cash, have a big house, own a Ferrari, holiday three months a year and still be a pessimistic arsehole. But what kind of life is that? For me a successful person is one who strives for continual self-improvement, mentally and physically. A successful person may not always acquire the “physical stuff” they desire but they remain positive, focused, kind to others and they are always sharpening their game.


“I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost more than 300 games. Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life... And that is why I succeed.”

Michael Jordan