When you see a worthy person, endeavour to emulate him. When you see an unworthy person, then examine your inner self.

When you see a worthy person, endeavour to emulate him.

When you see an unworthy person, then examine your inner self.

Confucius

 

I love this quote. About thirty years ago when I earned my brown belt in Zen Do Kai this quote was on the certificate and even way back then it shaped the way I began to think about everyone else around me.

If you see a worthy person, endeavour to emulate him.

There are so many talented people that we have contact with every day. Some have a talent for music, a talent for parenting, a talent for cooking, a talent for cleaning, a talent for making other people laugh, a talent for martial arts, a talent for showing grace under pressure, and we could go on all day. The point is that if you keep your eyes open you can find people doing amazing things all over the place. And as the quote suggests your job is to find out what they are doing right and copy them. People tell me all the time that I am good with kids, and I don’t know if that’s true, but any talent that I may have in working with kids was born from a 30 second interaction that I saw over 25 years ago with a 30 year old 5th degree black belt and a 10 year old white belt. That 5th Degree was patient, interested in what the kid had to say and fun all at the same time. Every time I interact with kids my goal is to be as good as that guy. There are thousands of moments in our lives that can teach us to be better people, just like the one I saw.  Become a good watcher, copy what you admire and fake it till you make it.

If you see an unworthy person, then examine your inner self.

As most of you know, I have read tons of books on psychology, personal development and metaphysics and I can’t remember where I read it but I came across a theory in psychology which basically says that what you dislike about a person is what you dislike about yourself. Now I don’t know if this theory is true, but if it were true it creates a massive opportunity for you and me to grow and become better people in the shadow of those of us who are imperfect. If an imperfect person or an “unworthy person” (and lets face it – we are all imperfect in some way ) can teach us more about our own imperfection or how not to be then we are well on the way to self improvement.

Keep your eyes open - there are teachers everywhere.