Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.

“Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage.  The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.”

William Ellery Channing

I think everyone of us experiences difficulties in some aspect of our lives most of the time. Sometimes they are external difficulties, ones that we have no direct control over. Other times, they are internal meaning that they reside in our minds. I know in my own life, and the lives of many people around me, that life seems to be a timetable of events and difficulties that have been challenging to overcome. Financial hardship, relationship breakdown, lack of motivation, ill heath, negativity and crushed dreams make up many of our life experiences. Difficulties are one of those things that can either make you or break you; the choice is really up to you.

Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage.

I think to effectively overcome difficulties you need to do two things: 1. Look for the good that has come out of the situation, and 2. You have to become solution focused.

Look for the good

This can be hard if you have been metaphorically kicked in the nuts but many times if you really think about the struggle before you, you can recognize that some good has become of it. Maybe it has made you wiser, thicker-skinned, and more empathetic towards others or just simply taught you what not to do. Either way you have to find some nugget of gold in the crap that lies at your feet.

Become Solution Focused

You can’t get yourself out of a difficult situation without moving forward. If you remain paralyzed by difficulty you will find it very tricky to escape from it. And the secret to moving forward is to find as many answers to your problem as possible. Don’t just collect them but try them until you find the solution that works for you. ACTION is the key here. You have to attempt stuff that’s going to get you out of the hole your in. The longer you wait the longer the difficulty takes to resolve itself, so get moving. 

The Human Spirit is to Grow Strong by Conflict

Intrapersonal conflict (the conflict between you and yourself) is an area that many of us struggle with. Our thoughts, particularly negative ones, can become our master if we don’t use vigilance and positive thinking to nullify them.    

Positive Thinking

The better term here is probably “Right Thinking”. Right thinking is properly aligning your thoughts with your desired outcomes. If you want to loose weight you cant be thinking all the time about how fat you are, how you can’t stick to a diet, how you hate to exercise and how you never loose weight. The incongruence between your thoughts and desires will manifest exactly what you constantly think about.

The trick here is to train your brain the same way you train your body. Be consistent, be positive, always seek to improve and never give up.